Yale professor shares tips for how to be emotionally intelligent

Marc Brackett discusses what it means to be emotionally intelligent in an interview with "GMA."
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As kids head back to school, educators are increasingly focusing on their emotional development. ABC's deb Roberts is here now and sat down with education guru Marc bracket to learn about his program helping kids understand their emotions and others and, deb, not only good for kids but their parents in that's right. You have kids heading into school. I do too. As they settle in many have packed up and are bringing with them a lot of emotional stuff. Studies show that three-quarters of kids report being tired, bored or stressed and many are getting a handle on their lives because they're getting permission to feel. Thousands of school kids around the country say they're in a better mood these days thanks to an increasingly popular program getting them to think more about their feelings. What are the biggest mistakes we're making from day to day in dealing with our feelings? Ignoring them. Suppressing them, denying them. Reporter: Marc Brackett author of "Permission to feel" says so many of us are burdened by stress and anxiety because we don't talk about our emotions. Feelings are information. They are important for our decisions. They're important for our relationships, our health. Our everyday performance. And when we acknowledge them, and use them wisely, great things happen. Reporter: He says kids are paying the steepest price. Research showing that American teens lead the world in violence, binge drinking, marijuana use and obesity it stress levels off the charts. More than half of college students are coping with anxiety, a third of them, depression. When you think about the world, there's a lot of stress. There's a lot of anxiety and talking about our feelings will help that. It will because as we say you have to name it to tame it. We'll list the five words that were most common at our table. Reporter: That's why this high school outside Chicago has implemented Brackett's ruler program as an integral part of its freshmen curriculum. They're the five skill, recognizing emotions in one's self, understanding consequences, labeling them, learning how to express those feelings and the top of the high arcry is regulation skills. Reporter: They use color coded language to help kids explain their mind-set on a given day, red if they're anxious or upset. Blue if they're down, yellow means they're happy. Included, do you guys want to feel included. We want them to say, hey, Mrs. Parker, I just came in and want you to know I'm red and I'm going to use some strategies right now. That's what we're doing here. We're lowering shame. At first it just didn't seem like I would use it every day. Every decision I make, I use it. It helps me be stronger so now I feel a lot more confident. It'll let me put myself in someone else's shoes and realize me being wrong okay. Life skills that you need to Reporter: Even parents noticing the difference. I'm seeing that she can come home and, you know, open up. My kids actually now ask me how I'm feeling and what they can do to make my day better. It's that life learning lesson that they don't get from a book in a regular classroom. And that is key. Dr. Brackett says getting adults involved in the conversation, checking in, Tom. So I have to ask you how are you feeling? I feel good but it's early, right? But what this doctor says, once you name it, you can tame it. How do you do it after that. What's key is once you know what you're feeling, it's all about those strategies to help you deal with it. For instance, maybe deep breathing to kind of take you down if you're feeling a little too tense. You know, visual identifying yourself in a better place. That makes a big difference and practicing a positive point of view. Sounds very simple but all of those things lead you to check in and sort of calm yourself and he says it makes a huge difference in schools across the country. They're seeing a big, big difference. Parents, taking the time to stop and say how do you feel? Exactly. Thanks so much. Coming up we're talking to the stars of the back to school

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